things are looking up 🌞

My last couple of posts have been a bit negative nancy so I thought I should focus on and write about the great things that have happened lately.  Firstly, my husband and I have made a deadline for when we get outta here (my mum’s).  Its in 3 months – end of May-  as long as all goes well with getting a loan and finding the right place.  We decided that a deadline is what we needed to keep ourselves sane enough to continue being here and it allow us to plan and knuckle down to save enough for our new place.  Our relationship has definitely benefited from this and we are doing well.

Secondly, I sold a dreamcatcher I made on etsy!! It is my first sale and I am so excited and motivated by this.  It has spurred me on to make more pretties and work harder at getting new things into my shop more often.  Today I went and bought a few more hoops to make more dreamers as I didn’t have any to make new ones.  Here is a pic of my packaged and ready to send dreamcatcher.

first sale

I added a handful of little crystals and a shell and silver mermaid to the package for something a little extra to say thankyou to the buyer.  I really hope she loves it, I put so much love into these and it is always scary to put yourself out there and be open to judgement.

Thirdly, and very excitingly, we traded in Brett’s mazda and bought a new(ish) car!!! It’s a 2012 Toyota RAV4 and it is in immaculate condition and very very low kms for its age and has 3 year warranty as well as lots of other little perks.  We are so happy about it and it is going to be perfect for all of the driving that we do and for going to the snow.  I am totally in love with it and so is Brett.  It also has enough room for another bub if we are lucky enough to be blessed again.  We decided to do this as the mazda was needing quite a bit of work and was getting quite old and had done over 300000kms. It kind of ends up cheaper for us just to buy this and spend only $80 a week on the repayments rather than spend thousands trying to fix up the mazda.  Anyway, here it is…..

new car

thanks for reading…. I will probably be posting pics of all our little trips in this baby from now on! hahahah ✌


saving spending saving!!!

At the moment we are still stuck living with my mum and stepdad and all I can think of is how to save more money.   We will hopefully be meeting with a mortgage broker in the next couple of weeks to get pre-approval for a home loan so we will know exactly what we are working with but in the meantime I have a list of things that I need to spend money on.  My car needs the CV joint fixed and a tune as well as a drivers side door handle.  This little visit will cost me close to $1000 no doubt 😒.  I have put it off for a while but I use my car a lot (especially living at mum’s) so it has to be done before it gets even worse.  Next is my husband’s car- the air conditioning compressor needs replacing which will cost us about $1500! We have put this off for ages but it is so hot in the car that Lennox is wet with sweat even with the windows down so we end up driving my car more which is why the problems with my car became so urgent.  We need to get his fixed so I can drive less as it aggravates my neck problems…’s like a domino effect! Then there is car rego to pay for both cars which is about $1500 for a year. Oh my god so just when you think you are getting more savings you gotta go and spend it all on these un-fun things!!

Sooooo anyway, all this has made me think in even more frugal ways and I haven’t done a full shop in the supermarket for 3 weeks now just so I can save more and get creative with using what we have.  I have saved an extra $150 from doing this and we certainly haven’t been starving!  I have to say I do enjoy this kind of challenge.  I have only bought eggs, bread, milk, cheese and fruit for Lennox and I have been using the veges (fresh and frozen) that we had left – just being  more frugal with how much I use and using more of the staple items in the pantry.  I have cut out the prepackaged baby snack foods and I am baking more healthy yummy treats that we can all eat.  Today I made a very basic cinnamon slice.  I usually add apples or bananas to this but I didn’t have any to spare.  I just dust some icing sugar on to finish this off.  It is really yummy, gluten free and goes great with a coffee for me 😋.


this is my basic cinnamon slice

I also made some quinoa ‘meat’balls (quinoa flakes, gf breadcrumbs, cheese, eggs, broccoli and herbs) and will be putting them in our pasta dinner tonight and mini protein pancakes for snacks for Lennox -she loves them and there is nothing bad in them, just 2 eggs, 2 bananas and half cup of oats – I blend the mixture and let it sit in the fridge for a few hours, then thin it out with some milk or water so it goes further and makes more! She must be having a growth spurt as she is eating constantly this week and is always saying ‘more’!

I have also just discovered the 52week savings plan, I can’t believe I have never heard of this before but now that I have, I want to make this a habit for life and teach this to Lennox.  So on top of our normal savings plans for house, holidays and the unexpected, we will be doing this and hopefully have a little cash nest egg for the end of the year with all of the festivities!  Thanks for reading through my babble!!😝

I started it…….

I began this blog after my mother once again prompted me to write.  She has been telling me to write a book for about 15 years as she said I have done so much interesting stuff in such a short time.  I have never seen my life that way – I guess you don’t if you’re the one living it.  Anyway, I thought after I got married I felt all inspired (and too pregnant to do much else except sit on the couch and write) and so I started this blog.  The name came about because I have always done things my way and I have never been good at being told what to do (who is?).  I also think you should never tell people what to do.  I believe that the best way to go about anything in life is to find your own way, sure its good to learn from others but ultimately you have to do what feels right for you.  

In the last couple of years my life has changed so dramatically for the best that I reflect often on how only 2 years ago I would never have dreamt that my life would be what it is now.  2 years ago I was slogging it out in the field of mental health, I was 34 and had finally ended a very very toxic relationship and was living in my duplex with my little dog.  We just hung out together and went for beach and park walks and would watch foreign movies on tv.  I had committed myself to a year of not entering into any relationship and just spending the time on healing past wounds and regaining my health and confidence which was at an all time low.  I was still working in mental health and loved the people I worked with – they were a great team – but I wanted more in my life and knew that I had to work on myself for some new to enter my life.  I had remained stagnant for too long with my ex.  


…And then I was reintroduced to Brett.  I had known him for 20 years and I knew his brother too but we had lost contact after his brother died.  We began chatting on Facebook (of all places) and it was just too easy.  I told him that this was my year to be alone and I was too much of a mess to begin a relationship but in spite of myself I fell in love with him.  There was just so much of myself that didn’t need explaining because he already knew my past which is really what shaped me into the person I am and the person that I was trying to reconnect with after a horrible relationship.  We took it easy for a while and I remained living alone, then he proposed on New Years Eve 2012.  Since then life has only gotten better and better.  I am so crazy in love with him and as much of a cliche as it sounds, I have absolutely never felt this way about a person EVER.  He supports me in every way to be the person I truly am, I have never felt so confident and in touch with myself.


So, now we are married and I am in my 8th month of pregnancy.  Our baby girl is due on the 8th of May.  

At the beginning of last year I quit my job and began studying my masters in counselling.  I deferred this in November due to some terribly persistent migraines in my first trimester and I plan to recommence those studies after another year.  Since those symptoms subsided and I had decluttered my house and life (nesting much?) I was beginning to get a bit bored.  The doctor had recommended I be less physical and rest more, I hate daytime television so was going a bit stir crazy!  I began thinking about the writing thing…..I had started and never finished a flexible learning freelance journalism course years ago and since I spend more time at home and doing less I thought I would write to them and see if I can continue those studies as I can at least keep intellectually stimulated.  To my surprise and excitement they said YES!! and so I decided to re-start the journalism diploma.  I received my first assignment feedback this week and they said it was excellent! Holy crap I wasn’t expecting that! ahaha  

It has been a big leap of faith for me to put myself out there in the form of this blog.  I would never have done this 2 years ago as I lived in fear of everything (especially of myself) and would not have taken the risk.  I had let that 5 year relationship wear away at my soul and I was worried that I may never get me back…but I had hope.

It is amazing how quickly your life can change and how bright my future now looks. 🙂

I would love it if others wanted to share their little story with me too!